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“We offer support, counselling, coaching to alienated fathers and  & CPD training workshops for professional counsellors.

 

What we do

Absent Father & The Forgiveness Model Workshops

The aim of these workshops are to gain competence & an understanding of how to work the stages of the Forgiveness Model into the issue of fatherlessness.

Psychotherapy, Counselling
& Support

Our One - One counselling is designed to help you deal with the estrangement issues you are facing as effectively as possible. We offer  a therapeutic approach that will help you to process what is happening and work to reduce any stress you may be experiencing,  Our focus is on helping you to understand the unique dynamics of your case and building strategies for action.

"We offer a holistic healing approach to the Absent Fathers Problem based on the Forgiveness Model"
 

About

The Absent Father Problem

A long tradition of sociological research has examined the effects of divorce and father absence on offspring’s economic and social-emotional well-being throughout the life course1 Overall, this work has documented a negative association between living apart from a biological father and multiple domains of offspring well-being, including education, mental health, family relationships, and labor market outcomes. These findings are of interest to family sociologists and family demographers because of what they tell us about family structures and family processes; they are also of interest to scholars of inequality and mobility because of what they tell us about the intergenerational transmission of disadvantage.

In the UK nearly 1 million children are growing up without any meaningful contact with their
fathers, and the number of single-parent families has rapidly increased over the past 30 years by nearly 30%. We cannot underestimate the impact and scars of growing up fatherless - how this contributes to both the shaping landscape of identity and leads to further transmission within family systems.. Statistics show that fatherless children are more likely to be raised in poverty, drop out of school, develop addiction problems, be incarcerated, commit suicide, and show violent behaviour. Much of the discourse demonstrate a public heath issue and epidemic.

The Enright Process
Model of Psychological Forgiveness

What Forgiveness Is - and Isn’t Enright asserts that forgiveness is essentially, the “foregoing of resentment or revenge” when the wrongdoer's actions deserve it and instead giving the offender gifts of “mercy, generosity and love” or “beneficence” when the wrongdoer does not deserve them. In other words, when people forgive, they essentially give up the anger to which they are entitled and give to their offender a gift to which he or she is not entitled. Depending on the seriousness of the offense and the length of time that the person offended has lived with and- perhaps denied- the harm caused by the offense, forgiving may be a long, difficult and painful process. Enright and his colleagues have found that a common, major obstacle to forgiving another is misunderstanding what forgiveness is. People who would benefit from forgiving sometimes mistakenly assume that to forgive they must do what is impossible or even wrong. Another obstacle may be that one’s parents or primary caregivers may never have shown forgiveness, or may have modeled a pseudo-forgiveness. For example, saying “I forgive you” sometimes may be a denial that any harm occurred or a self-defeating effort to control, manipulate or gain “moral superiority” over the offender.

Click to read the full article on the Enright Process courtesy of  couragerc.org...

Father and Son

Forgiveness can be described as follows;
"A psychological work in continuation of the labour of mourning, with the power to safe guard the gains of a successful mourning process. It is minimally defensive, developmentally progressive and unconsciously motivated (Siassi, 2007)"